Marriage is an opportunity to learn how to love another. For many, this is no small task. Depending on our background and upbringing, we may not have had love demonstrated to us. This can make it very difficult when we try to show someone the love that we never received. It becomes important to understand and accept that God loves us unconditionally. There is nothing we can do to earn it. God’s love is a free gift, no strings attached.
“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” John 3:16
Can you possibly imagine sacrificing your child for the good of another? This wonderfully summarizes how much God has done for us and how much he truly loves his creation. Love is a fundamental element in growing and nurturing our relationships.
If affection is a sore spot for you because of past sexual trauma, I want to encourage you to take the steps necessary to get the healing you deserve. There are many great Christian counselors in your area who want to help you bring your BEST self into your relationship. To obtain information or seek a counselor in your area go to the AACC (American Association of Christian Counselors) website @ http://www.aacc.net
How are you at demonstrations of affection? How was affection show in the family in which you were raised? Do you think that displays of affection, not simply sex, are important to your mate? Talk to your spouse and assess how you are meeting each other’s love needs. Odds are you will find areas in which you can be more attentive.
©2014 Eric A. Disney, Marriage by Design
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