One of the elements of a healthy marital relationship that is all too often eliminated once the ring goes on the finger is date night. It is amazing how many couples don’t remember the last time they and their spouse did something together by themselves. Realizing that once the adorable little kiddies come things can be a bit difficult and schedules fill up fast does not make it less important.
Perhaps it would be good to view your relationship the same way you view your career and work life. How do we get things done at work? We prioritize the workload. This may seem very mechanical and even uncaring, but doesn’t the lack of prioritizing your marital life strike you as being considerably less caring? For the guys, take the initiative and set up a babysitter, make a dinner reservation, make all the arrangements. Trust me, she will appreciate it. A man who takes the initiative in the relationship will be deemed very attractive to your wife. A word of advice: don’t make the movies your destination unless it’s the rare exception. That in itself does not classify as a date night. Conversation and interaction is limited between a couple while the THX sound is blaring in their eardrums.
Ladies, you too have a great ability to orchestrate wonderful getaways and weekend excursions; use that gifting. Not everything you do need be expensive. For those on a budget, a walk in the
park, a long drive, or a field by the airport to watch the planes take off would all do nicely. Both of you, be creative! My wife and I have Disneyland passes and love to go there on a Sunday night, ride a few rides, and have a nice dinner, but mostly it affords us opportunity to chat as we stroll around the park. If you don’t give your marriage priority, I can assure you that you will find the romance and intimacy diminishing rapidly.
Ask yourself this simple question, with regards to the topic of date nights, how do we measure up as a couple? In what ways can I/we pave the way for increased time together to grow and dream as a team? What will be my first step toward improvement in this area of our lives?
If it has been so long since dating your spouse you might want to get a jump start by asking your mate some of their most favorite things to do. What do they really enjoy? This might begin to prompt your thinking, minimally you’ll have so suggestions to get you started.
There are few things that draw a couple closer than to know that they are important to their spouse. Planning and executing date nights are a great way to demonstrate to your mate just how important they are to you!
Be Blessed and enjoy your date nights, I know your spouse will!
©2016 Eric A. Disney, Marriage by Design
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