What expectations do you have for your marriage? We all have expectations: about our careers, our relationships, our families, our futures, you name it. It is important to know where we are heading so that we can benchmark our progress. And we should assess those expectations from time to time because otherwise they could derail our progress in life and relationships.
Are your expectations for your marriage heading you toward divorce court or marital bliss? Please note that if your expectations lean toward the negative, that will directly affect the way you behave toward your spouse. It will certainly minimize your ability to communicate positively in your relationship. A problem many couples have is that they build on the negatives in the relationship and over time simply stop looking for the good things in their spouse and their marriage. When we feel emotionally distraught, we often look for the things that will support our negative emotions—rather than things that will lift us up.
I encourage you to never forget those things that first attracted you to your spouse. If things have changed, assess yourself and your current behaviors and attitudes. What are you doing to contribute to those negative aspects of your marriage?
©2014 Eric A. Disney, Marriage by Design
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